IT'S THE SYSTEM, STUPID!*
Traditional Church: Invitation to Trouble
Basic traditional, institutional church structure is a problem. It’s modeled after man-made political/cultural systems that require a division between leaders and followers, aka the clergy/laity divide. The key word here is “divide/division”. This divide has created a system that leaves power in the hands of a few and the rest just warming pews and filling the offering plate. Abusive, narcissistic people readily take advantage of this and the result is seen in news reports continually coming out about ministry failings. This post will look at how the typical church structure is anything but biblical and lends itself by far too easily to abuse.
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The Priesthood of All Believers
But Jesus called them unto him, and said, Ye know that the princes of the Gentiles exercise dominion over them, and they that are great exercise authority upon them. But it shall not be so among you: but whosoever will be great among you, let him be your minister; And whosoever will be chief among you, let him be your servant. Matt. 20:25-27 KJV
And hath made us kings and priests unto God and his Father; to him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen. Rev. 1:6 KJV
Churches are set up with hierarchy- the so-called clergy/laity divide. The leaders and the followers. The anointed and the not-so-anointed. And when the system goes to seed, you have the ones that hear from God for you so you don’t have to, and the rest of us poor wretches that just sit there saying, “Feed me! Feed me!” When the system breeds abuse, you get the Anointed One up front espousing his/her great wisdom from on high while the dumb sheep check their brains at the door and sit in the pews, getting indoctrinated into whatever said Anointed One desires. That pulpit and sermon are things that should never have been in the first place. It’s a tradition taken from Greek oratory, not from early Christianity. (See Pagan Christianity, Frank Viola, chapter 4.)
We should be functioning in the "priesthood of all believers" concept which the New Testament introduces. But the course of history pulled the Church right back into the world's way of doing things.
Again, this entire set-up should never have been. Now it’s accepted and expected. And it’s abused all the time. Churches should have multiple leaders working equally as facilitators, not dictators. Their job is to make disciples, not to rule, and certainly not to put on a show. Elders are just simply older and have experience that will help younger believers. Groups should be run by consensus, not one-man/woman rule.
Then there’s the other side of the coin- anyone that takes a position as “pastor” is asking to get burned out. We are supposed to be building one another up, not exhausting one leader with umpteen needy sheep screaming for help. All have a part, all have gifts, all have callings, all should be included and contributing one way or another. For the purposes of this post, I'll be focusing on the abusive leader side of the coin. This is not to minimize the abuse that goes the other way with the burned out pastor. But with the overwhelming amount of abuse being exposed now, it seems fitting to concentrate on that side of it.
This brings me to another point. Particularly in non-denominational churches, you’ve got self-proclaimed leaders just showing up somewhere, starting their church, and claiming that they are “called” to pastor. And we just take their word for it. It’s a welcome mat for a controlling narcissistic manipulator. In other systems, people say they are “called”, then head off to seminary and get their degree. But it’s all assuming they actually hear from God. And we just take their word for it. In an ideal setting, all are on equal footing with equal say, and one bad apple would be hard pressed to bull in and take over, proclaiming their oh-so-awe-inspiring anointed-ness.
Most of us have been in systems that promote that "umbrella" diagram of hierarchy. This has cemented the theology in our thinking, leading us to assume most of us have no authority to speak of, particularly if you're a woman. The umbrella diagram illustrates the "covering doctrine" which is espoused just about everywhere now. This will be elaborated upon later.
A hierarchical system of leaders and followers, regardless of the brand of Christianity, can and does feed that narcissistic need for superiority, attention and center stage. It gives abusive leaders a whole flock of dumb sheep to turn into enablers that feed their ego, a whole congregation of people to use and abuse. Think megachurches.
We are supposed to be facilitating the priesthood of all believers.
You also, as living stones, are being built up as a spiritual house for a holy priesthood, to offer up spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ. 1 Pet. 2:5 NASB
But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light. 1 Pet. 2:9 NKJV
From whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love. Eph. 4:16
Dumb Sheep Mentality
Now these people were more noble-minded than those in Thessalonica, for they received the word with great eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see whether these things were so. Acts 17:11 NASB
Church people assume that to walk in love and forgiveness, you don’t question anything coming from the pulpit. Indeed, questioning the leader is tantamount to questioning God Himself, because, well, he/she’s the one that hears from God. You surely don’t. The whole Dumb Sheep model assumes this. Dumb sheep don’t question. Dumb sheep don’t challenge anything. Dumb sheep have to be led. Dumb sheep can’t hear from God for themselves. Dumb sheep need a leader, and dumb sheep WILL obey. To me, this is the basic lie that has fed the whole man-made institutional system we are now dealing with, and what underlies the whole mess we are watching unfold in the media now.
Narcissistic pastors will insist that they hear from God, they are the voice of God, so you must obey. You must submit to their authority. Non submission is considered rebellion against God in extreme systems. In fairly normal groups, it's just taken for granted that the pastor has final authority, and you do what you're told. Because of the hierarchy system of the world, people conform to that model even though it's anything but biblical.
Questioning what you hear is biblical. Checking out everything makes you "noble-minded". Being a dumb sheep just makes you possible prey for abusive leaders. The wolves are out there. Be wise as serpents...
Be of sober spirit, be on the alert. Your adversary, the devil, prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 1 Pet. 5:8 NASB
Churches
traditionally like to use that little umbrella diagram to illustrate
how we are to submit (translate- be manipulated.) I’ve seen it in a
couple different configurations, both which demand submission one way
or another. In evangelical/fundamentalist environs, the “Christ”
umbrella is over the top, with the father next, then wife and kiddos
underneath. In the system I was in (a non-denom), they slide a pastor
umbrella in between Christ and the family father, putting the pastor
at the top of the earthly heap. Either way, the guy is the family
authority, a patriarchal dream come true.
Both diagrams demand submission. They both promote a covering one way or another, and this whole dynamic assumes that Jesus just isn’t enough; that we need another mediator between us and God. That one umbrella on top is enough. Yes, the Bible teaches submission, but it's to be submission to one another, not this very one-sided version we've been taught. And the reason we've been taught this way is because the doctrine has been translated into our Bibles very deliberately.
This concept goes by the name of the Covering Doctrine in the church I was in, and it is flat out heresy. This was the basis for their demand for submission, and it’s nothing more than control masked as protection. I have an entire post on the Spiritual Covering Doctrine if you are interested in more information. None of us need any other covering, any other mediator. Jesus paid it all. And by the way, this enables wife abusers.
Note: for those of you who would contend this point, may I refer you to Beth Allison Barr’s book The Making of Biblical Womanhood where she traces patriarchy through history and explains how we have mistranslated and misinterpreted much of what Paul wrote about the subject.
There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus. Gal. 3:28 KJV
Titles
And call no man your father upon the earth: for one is your Father, which is in heaven. Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ. But he that is greatest among you shall be your servant. Matt. 23:9-11 KJV
Church culture dictates the use of titles. Pastor. Father. My fav- Reverend. We have a clear directive from Jesus to NOT use titles. But we have for hundred of years anyway. Titles cement that clergy/laity divide, leaving us with a system that emphasizes the division between the anointed and the not-so-anointed. It’s a handy little tool used to intimidate and control the masses. [Side note- King James tasked his translators to translate the Bible in such a way that the power of the clergy would be protected. (Wikipedia)]
Titles can feed a narcissistic need for attention and admiration. It creates an atmosphere of intimidation designed to keep you in line. And it feeds pride and arrogance, one of the main hallmarks of narcissism. They need center stage, they need to be held in awe. Titles just fill the bill. In the church I was in, he made it a requirement to address him as “Pastor”.
The whole leadership dynamic should never have been in the first place. Then throw titles on the leader positions and you have a recipe for pride, arrogance and control. This leader/follower paradigm is a given in any church, and lends itself by far too easily to abuse.
And Then There's the Money
As systems grow, so does the need for finances to pay for the building and its upkeep, the staff, the insurance, special events, fog machines, a bazillion dollars' worth of sound equipment, the little cafe, etc, etc, etc. And let's not forget the honorariums paid out to special speakers that rubber-stamp whatever the preacher is dishing out.
Of course we've all seen the obscene amount of money some of these preachers have invested in multiple estates, jets, vacations, and who knows what all. And people still willingly hand their money over thinking they are buying God's blessings. Christianity has turned into a huge industry and a giant con job. Its time has come.
It's the System, Stupid
The system is crashing. Self-appointed leaders are falling right and left. The mega-church model in particular is failing at an alarming rate with more and more of these “superstar” leaders being exposed for one reason or another. And at the root of it all is the man-made nature of the beast.
It’s not a sin to call out sin. If you are in a church with narcissism and abuse running rampant, leaving is the minimum to do. Staying just encourages the behavior, leaving you as an enabler.
Paul told Timothy to avoid those that cause division and offense:
Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple. Rom 16:17-18 KJV
Then in 2 Timothy, Paul pretty well lays out the whole narcissistic personality and exhorts believers to avoid them:
This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 2 Tim. 3: 1-5 KJV
We were never supposed to be this gullible, this easily swayed, this easily deceived. But the system we have inherited has made it by far too easy to fall into that “dumb sheep” mentality. As children of God, we hear from God for ourselves, and we need to test the spirits.
Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world. 1 Jn 4:1 KJV
If something doesn’t sit right, back off. Pray, and hear from God. Especially if it’s someone claiming to be a leader. You have as much ability to hear from God as they do, and indeed, you have that responsibility.
But the anointing which ye have received of him abideth in you, and ye need not that any man teach you: but as the same anointing teacheth you of all things, and is truth, and is no lie, and even as it hath taught you, ye shall abide in him. 1 Jn 2:27 KJV.
Abide in Him, not in some leader or some church system. Abide in Him. He will teach you ALL things. Educate yourself. Knowledge is power.
And hath made us kings and priests unto God and his Father; to him be glory and dominion for ever and ever. Amen. Rev. 1:6 KJV
*Taken from "It's the economy, stupid!", a catch-phrase used in the 1992 election. Wikipedia
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Recommended Reading
When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community from Emotional and Spiritual Abuse by Chuck DeGroat
Unleader: Reimagining Leadership and Why We Must by Lance Ford
Reimagining Church: Pursuing the Dream of Organic Christianity by Frank Viola
Finding Church: What if There Really Is Something More? by Wayne Jacobsen